The Courage to Be Disliked
The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimiby Ichiro Kishimi
Tied for most recommended of 9 psychology books
People recommend it as an accessible dialogue introducing Adlerian psychology, which many say changed how they see themselves and others.
People recommend it as an accessible dialogue introducing Adlerian psychology, which many say changed how they see themselves and others.
7 people gave an opinion
- recommend it
- 7
- criticize it
- 0
- approval share
- 100%
Recommended in 7 of 13 months
- November 2025: recommended
- December 2025: recommended
- January 2026: recommended
- February 2026: not recommended
- March 2026: not recommended
- April 2026: recommended
- May 2026: not recommended
- June 2026: not recommended
- July 2026: not recommended
- August 2026: recommended
- September 2026: recommended
- October 2026: recommended
- November 2026: not recommended (month in progress)
Why it doesn’t carry the badge
- 7 people recommend itNeeds 10 or more, not met.
- Nobody criticizes itNeeds 2 to 1 or better, met.
- Recommended in 7 of 13 monthsNeeds 4 or more, met.
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What people say about it
The reasons people give, with the number of comments that give each one. Open a reason to read what they said.
Why people recommend it
Each mark is one comment
Changed how readers see themselves
“This book change my lens on human behavior - my own, as well as that of others.”
Comment from 15 Apr 2026 in “How Depression Physically Feels” “Shifting from a Freudian paradigm to an Adlerian one has been massive.”
Comment from 4 Jan 2026 in “I changed my personality in six weeks” “Help me a lot to understand myself and my insecurities.”
Comment from 20 Aug 2026 in “Why Aren't Smart People Happier?” - Comment from 5 Jan 2026 in “I changed my personality in six weeks”
Accessible introduction to Adlerian psychology
“If you're truly interested on how somebody might get there, consider giving this a look”
Comment from 6 Oct 2026 in “Blindsight (Watts Novel)” “Philosophy as a dialogue between teacher and student, lots to think about.”
Comment from 11 Dec 2025 in “Ask HN: End of Year Book Recommendations” “a gentle intro to applied Adlerian psychology”
Comment from 5 Oct 2026 in “The mental health of young men is declining. Experts warn it could get worse”
Other psychology books people recommend
The four most recommended other psychology books, with the same counts for each, so you can compare like for like. The tick on each bar marks the 2 to 1 line the badge needs.
| Product | Recommend | Criticize | Approval | Months | Owned | Badge |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| The Courage to Be Dislikedby Ichiro KishimiThis page | 7 | 0 | 100% | 7 | — | — |
| Influenceby Robert Cialdini | 7 | 1 | 88% | 5 | — | — |
| The Inner Game of Tennisby W. Timothy Gallwey | 4 | 0 | 100% | 2 | — | — |
| The Happiness Hypothesisby Jonathan Haidt | 3 | 0 | 100% | 3 | — | — |
| Stumbling on Happinessby Daniel Gilbert | 3 | 0 | 100% | 3 | — | — |
What people said
8 of the 9 comments that mention it, newest first. Each links to the original comment.
“If you're truly interested on how somebody might get there, consider giving this a look”
“a gentle intro to applied Adlerian psychology”
“Help me a lot to understand myself and my insecurities.”
“This book change my lens on human behavior - my own, as well as that of others.”
“Literally changed my life this book.”
“Shifting from a Freudian paradigm to an Adlerian one has been massive.”
“Philosophy as a dialogue between teacher and student, lots to think about.”
“I've read The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and other similar books, and I'm trying to build the courage”
Counts come from 1,795,640 Hacker News comments, November 2025 to November 2026. How we count. Report a mistake.